Sexism and Sex Toy Robots

Updated: Feb 17, 2019

The first thing I have to say about this story is, Las Vegas! Las Vegas is where you want to draw a line on decency? But I'll leave Vegas out of it for now.

Sexism doesn't come as a big surprise to me, but I'm still shocked when an organization comes right out and does it in the open. I have this, really? You're going to do this in the light of day? response. Do you not realize it's 2019 and you're supposed to hide that sh*t?

Here's a story that hit home for me. Recently the Consumer Electronics Show in Las Vegas awarded a prize to the Ose, a sex toy for woman that purports to use high-tech robotic technology for an experience that simulates mouth, tongue, and fingers all in one.

Sounds great except the show took back the award, claiming the Ose was “immoral, obscene, indecent, profane or not in keeping with the show’s image."

Okay, if you want your tech show in Vegas--which is probably a stone's throw from X Country and Naked Magicians, to be a bastion of chastity--okay. Bad venue. Your business.

But according to the Guardian, last year's show featured a freakishly life-like sex doll for men (by the way, don't click if you don't want to see) and they've had pornography at the show as well.

The idea is everywhere in the media!

Men's desire and sexuality is normal, powerful, acceptable, even glorious.

Women's desire is weird, dirty, unnecessary, and embarrassing. It shouldn't exist, but if it does, it's something we should keep to ourselves...except if we're porn-star screaming to a man about how great he is while he thrusts away.

That's now how healthy couples function, and that's not what most men want. I don't know where this double-standard comes from but I want to hear your thoughts. Have you seen this phenomenon in real life? Have you seen the opposite? What are you doing to claim your own desire?

Karelia Stetz-Waters is a contemporary lesbian romance writer with a passion for happy endings and women's bodies. Here dream is to entertain readers while teaching them the pleasure-secrets that lesbian know best. (Hint: Straight girls, these tips are for you. You can take them to the bedroom tonight!) Order Karelia's work on Amazon or learn more at

Lara Zielinsky is a bisexual, married polyam woman who has been writing lesbian and bisexual women's fiction since 1998. Her first novel was traditionally published in 2007. Her latest was published in February 2019. She's now a full-time writer and editor working out of her home in Florida.



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-- Karelia